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When is it OK to date someone you helped on a fire or EMS call?

Some said dating someone you help on a call crosses an ethical line, while others urged people to mind their own business

When a Florida firefighter-medic proposed to a woman he saved after she was stabbed 32 times by her ex-boyfriend, it begged the question: When’s it OK for a responder to date a victim?

In the case of firefighter-medic Cameron Hill and Melissa Dohme, they reconnected 10 months after the incident. And two and a half years later, he got down on one knee and proposed to her at a Tampa Bay Ray’s game.

So, we asked our fans on Facebook what they thought about dating someone you helped on a call.

If you haven’t already, let us know what you think in the comment section below.

1.“I had the same discussion with my wife who’s an RN. I think it teeters on crossing an ethical line. She says, “Shut up and be happy for the people who find what they are looking for regardless of circumstances.” — Scott Bravo

2.“You can’t help who you fall in love with or where.” — Desiree Edwards

3.“This is a funny thing, because Washington State DOH made a rule a few years back that “two years after the ending of the professional medical relationship” was the correct answer for everyone. I think it eventually got vague again.” — Jonathan Clemens

4.“I married my husband four years after I picked him up in the middle of the interstate after he crashed his motorcycle.” — Kelly Jennings McCommon

5.“Why is it really anyone’s business and even a topic of conversation?” — Marie Glasser

6.“As long as personal life doesn’t interfere with professional life, there shouldn’t be an issue.” — Jon Arbogash

7.“You have to meet people somewhere.” — Kevin LeClair

8.“We need to be vigilant for a psychological phenomenon known as transference, where the person being helped transfers their feelings to the person who helped them. The people we take care of are often in a vulnerable state, and we need to be careful that we are not exploiting that unethically. Just be careful.” — Dominick Walenczak

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